Life is but a bunch of disillusioned individuals, trying to see their way through an enormous masquerade party of opponents and very few allies; who all are projecting upon themselves – fears – in order to survive the cycle, hoping at the same time to find a way of fulfilling some degree of acceptance and unconditional love. In days not even guaranteed, everyday is a fight to stay alive and relevant.
I usually don’t like to get too reflective on this blog. It’s mostly a visual blog of miscellany that resonates well with myself and Ernie. However, at times, I feel the need to reflect a bit deeper. Since I turned 40 yesterday, as most anybody would once that landmark age creeps up, I thought about a lot. I summed up the previous 39 years of my life in the quote above. If there is anything that I can say that I’ve learned in life so far, in my experience, is have no regrets. Be confidant. Be yourself; even if it’s scary. Have less expectations. Find faith. Nurture hope. Laugh a lot. Take risks. Stand up for yourself. Give people the benefit of the doubt, until proven otherwise. Find and know your true worth. Love hard but save 10% for yourself. Shyness is an illusion. Enjoy being alone but not lonely. Take time to sweat; it keeps the body heated and in a state of creation. Don’t believe anything in mainstream media; just cause it’s on television doesn’t make it truth. Nobody really cares about your story. If you want something done right, seriously do it yourself. Don’t depend on people unless you have collateral. Don’t be greedy. Be reliable – especially to those you truly love. Don’t be superficial with people. Don’t be a victim. Practice being tactful and upfront. There is more to life than making money. Fear is a defense mechanism. Smile a lot; it honestly can transform. Have a hobby. Respect goes a long way. Find humor in everything – it buffers. Keep your circle small. Friendships evolve and at times fade. Learn how to shut up. Embrace sexuality. Relationships makes for comfort in being vulnerable, compromising openly, personal growth and acceptance of the imperfect. Get enough sleep. Travel; the world is beautiful. Being obnoxious is not cute in the least. Stop worrying; it’s a waste of time. Happiness is a journey not a destination. Own what you say and do. And last but not least, in the words of Ru Paul, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an Amen”?